Wednesday, October 24, 2012

Melizzle's Bridal Shower

This one time (in September), I went to Vegas for a bachelorette party.  But before that, we had a bridal shower (in August).  I know, I know, waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay behind on posting.  No excuses here, just pictures (iPhone pics at that).

The setup

Mmmmmm, dessert






Food

Dranks


The Wish Tree



Presents!!

Love this.  Still have mine hanging on my mantle.

Bride and Groom to be!

Big ole bouquet

Don't mind my tan lines....

The invitation

Melissa's sister did a great job with all the little details and GF hosted at her house again (we had my shower and her shower there as well) because it's the perfect space for all those people.  It was a lovely shower and a great day celebrating the princess!  Their wedding is now less than a month away and I can't wait!!

Total cheater blog post, I know.  Great way to work my way back in :)

Tuesday, October 9, 2012

Happy 30th Jen!




Today would have been my cousin, Jen's 30th birthday.  January will mark the 10 year anniversary of her death.  You can read more about her here and here

As I was getting ready this morning, I had this urge to check the date.  I honestly couldn't recall what day of October it was or what the past few days' dates were.  I checked my phone and sure enough, it's October 9th, Jen's birthday.  As I realized this, and recalled that it would have been her 30th birthday, I let my mind wander to what we would probably be doing if she were here to celebrate it.

As I have mentioned before, Jen and I had just started to rekindle and strengthen our relationship not too long before she passed.  If she were here today, I know in my heart that we would be the best of friends as that picture above suggests.  We would have been bridesmaids in each other's weddings.  Our husbands would have grown to be good friends and we would take weekend trips to Napa and Vegas and Tahoe together.  Eventually we would be raising our babies together.  She would be here to see her little sisters growing up and turning into amazing young women and graduating and getting married.

Not to discount all of the other people in my life that have passed, but her death has affected me the most long-term.  I just wish she were here to do all of those things with.  To laugh and talk about life and love with.  I try not to dwell on it too much, but when she does cross my mind, those stolen moments hit me pretty hard.  It does help me to cherish the relationships I do have, though, and I am thankful for that.

Happy 30th birthday, cuz.  Hope you are having a rager to celebrate, wherever you are.

Tuesday, September 25, 2012

Labor Day in So Cal

Now that I have finally recovered from my recent trips, I can start blogging about them. 

One of my good friends moved down to LA not too long before our wedding and since we had to pay for said wedding and honeymoon, I haven't gotten a chance to go down and visit her.  She has since met someone and they now reside together in Manhattan Beach.  With all of the great deals on Southwest, I snagged a decently priced ticket and headed down there for Labor Day weekend with another friend of ours and left JB at home.

Since it was also the upcoming birthday of the friend I was heading down there with, Steph and her BF made some plans for us which involved driving down to San Diego on Saturday.  After they picked us up from the airport on Friday night, we headed to a nearby bar where their friend, Dane, was playing an acoustic set.  I have a video of him between songs just messing around, but he was pretty awesome.  I love, love, LOVE acoustic sets!



That's Steph trying to creep into the video.  If you can see in the mirror, there was a girl in red and black flannel that was getting down on the dance floor.  A friend of Dane's, supposedly.  She was dying to get us to dance with her and was apparently a rep for Red Bull so in order to keep us out there with her, she kept buying us rounds of drinks.  Works for me!

Later that night we went back to Steph and Kris's apartment which is right on the harbor in Marina Del Rey.  We had to take this cutey-patooty for a walk, so we ventured out to the pier:

Meet Chester (Newfie/corgi mix)

We were almost at the end of our walk when we heard snoring coming from the docks.  There was a mountain of either seals or sea lions (how do you know the difference?) sleeping on the dock.  When we approached with Chester, the alpha male started barking at us.  So naturally, I took some video.  You can't really see anything, but our drunk commentary made me laugh:



A pic of us on our evening walk:

Apparently I didn't get the PJ memo before the walk
The next morning we headed down to SD, but not before we had ice cream cake to celebrate Maren's birthday. 
 
Wish I could wake up to this every day!


Given the fun the night before, we didn't get the early start we were hoping for and it took us 3 hours instead of 2 to get down to SD due to holiday traffic.  We had some road sodas (and a designated driver) with us though, no worries.

And Chester!!
We made a brief stop at the apartment we were staying at to change real quick and then headed off to a house party right on Ocean Front Drive.

Gotta get the booze from the car to the house without getting busted
 
Don't all of your house parties overlook the beach with a DJ in the living room?

One of my favorite morments of the trip:

 
And the award for Best Lover goes to....

Shortly after this we all headed downstairs to the patio for the sunset:


And then proceeded to go home and get ready for a night out at Hard Rock:




That was a late night with a lot of drinks, which led to brunch the next morning looking something like this:


After brunch we headed to Coronado for a day at the beach (which may or may not have included 6 bottles of champagne) some delicious Mexican food, and another night at Hard Rock.  However, I don't have pictures of any of that. 

We ended up staying up all night since Kris had to work his bartending job in SD and we planned to head back to LA as soon as he got off work.  We hit the road at 5am and pulled into their apartment complex, full sunrise, at 7am.  We slept for a few hours and then headed out for brunch/lunch in Venice Beach before heading to the airport.  I'm pretty sure my liver still hasn't forgiven me for what I did that weekend.  At least it was good prep for my Vegas trip.

Up next, Vegas Bachelorette!!!

Monday, September 24, 2012

That One Time Jenna Jameson Called me Rude

As a follow up to my earlier post, feast your eyes on this:


You would think being in the porn industry would give you a thicker skin...

Friday, September 21, 2012

That One Time I Was In Bed With Jenna Jameson...

I seem to have failed to mention that I was once in bed with Jenna Jameson.  Luckily, I didn't contract anything....

Anyone remember the show on MTV called "Becoming"?  The show where a star's BIGGEST FAN could send in a video application telling MTV what makes them THE BIGGEST FAN and then the chosen one would get flown to LA for a few days to re-make the video and get a bunch of swag?

Anyone?  Anyone?  Bueller?

Well, about ten years ago I was dating Slim Shady's BIGGEST FAN.  I was a huge fan myself, but I don't think I could have pulled off resembling him in the video so I chose not to apply.  Anywho, he applied and listed me as the person to contact if he was chosen (because they like to keep it a secret and surprise the winner).  I got the call one day while I was at work.  I was so excited for him!!  I remembered in a previous episode I had seen that a girl who won got to bring her boyfriend along, so I straight up asked them if I could come along if I paid for my own plane ticket.

They said YES!!

For years and years I searched for this video on youtube and only a few months back did it surface.  It's terrible quality and it's in 2 parts.  The first part is the surpise (that's me in the "dancer" shorts waking him up during the surprise) and the whole first part of the episode where they show him filming all the different scenes (look for my intro around 13:13) and the second part is the video in it's entirety.





It was the most amazing experience, even thought it didn't really happen to me.  I got to hang out behind the scenes for three days and made some awesome friends with the crew.  Later that year we got invited back to LA for a wrap party at a bar with all of the other peeps who got to become their favorite artist.  We thought maybe we would get to go backstage since he was going to be in Sac shortly after we returned home, but no such luck. 

Will the real Slim Shady please stand up?

Thursday, September 6, 2012

Inspire Me: Healthy v:4



All In My Twenties

I know we are probably in week 6 for this link-up, but due to meetings and trips out of town, I was unable to get my posts together for the last couple of weeks. 

I was visiting friends in SoCal last weekend (a whole post in itself) and I have a Vegas trip next weekend which has led me out on a few shopping excursions lately.  First of all, I SUCK at shopping and fashion, so I already dread going shopping.  And the fact that I am not where I would like to be fitness-wise makes it even more challenging.  Last week I had to buy a new pair of work pants in a bigger size, so that's awesome.  Then I went to Macy's and couldn't find any clothes between teeny-bopper slut and grandma styles.  Where do they hide the "classy, grown-up beezy that likes to still work it" clothing?

Anywho...

Last week's shopping excursion left me feeling less than stellar about myself and last night's encore was no better.  Add to that the fact that I wore a size 6 skirt yesterday that used to look amazing on me, but for the entire day I had it unhooked and unzipped because it was cutting off the circulation to the rest of my body.  No bueno.  I cried the entire ride home and tried to fix my face before I walked in the door because I didn't want hubs to see me like that 2 weeks in a row.  Unfortunately he could tell and then decided to hug me.

Wrong move, sucka.

I basically started sobbing so hard I couldn't breathe and telling him how I have never been this unhappy with my body for this long.  Usually I just start working out and eating right again and I start to feel better, but it's not working.  The entire month of August I worked out at least 4 days a week and was eating right and I don't feel better.  I don't feel tighter.  I'm not seeing changes.  My pants are still uncomfortable.  It's so annoying.  I feel like I'm not doing enough.  I want to maximize my workouts to get the most effort out of the least amount of time, but I just feel like it's not enough.



So I decided that my post today would be about motivation.  I mentioned before that it takes time.  I usually start seeing noticeable changes after about 3 months.  This is a perfect example since I am one month into it and frustrated to meltdown status.  I feel like what I am doing is not working.  It's hard to keep the goal in perspective because all I can think about is the fact that nothing is changing yet.


This time around for me, JB is my motivation.  Being a fitness professional, his insight is actually helpful in these situations.  Guys are known to be fixers.  When girls start freaking out about their body image, guys don't usually know what to do.  The fact that he knows what to do makes the fact that he wants to help fix this situation a lot easier for both of us.

After I had calmed down a bit, he asked me some questions that helped us get to a solution.  I told him some of my concerns regarding foods and my workouts and the gym.  I am going to start logging what I eat, not for calorie purposes, but to see how I feel when I eat them (am I tired, bloated, energetic, etc), and we set a goal to work out 20 times in the remaining 25 days of the month.  Knowing that I am starting up some evening classes again and that I am out of town (and most likely out of commission) for a few days of that tells me that I need to work out twice some days. 


JB and I got up early together this morning and knocked out a good workout and I plan to go to a class at the gym after work or do a body rock workout at home.  This weekend we are going to go shopping and fill up the house with lots of good food and do some food prep on Sunday during football.  The main reason the Live Fit Trainer worked so well for me is that I was consistent.  And because I was consistent with my workouts, I wanted to fuel my body appropriately, so I did the prep work necessary to get that done.  I need to get back to those roots and get it done.  Once I get where I want to be, the once daily body rock workouts will be enough to maintian.  I feel good about the goal for September and love that JB is so supportive.  I feel like my mind is in the right place again and the goal is on the horizon.


How do you keep going when you get frustrated that you aren't seeing results?

Thursday, August 16, 2012

Inspire Me: Healthy v:3


A Mommas Desires And Pacifiers


Here we are in week 3 of the Inspire Me: Healthy link up.  In week one, I talked about my plans/workout a little bit and showed you some initial photos.  Last week I talked about some of our favorite recipes.  This week I wanted to talk a little bit about my philosophy on eating/weight loss.  I couldn't really figure out how to organize this post, so I just went with bold words.  I'm not saying I am an expert, but in the past 5 or 6 years, I have done a lot of reading and learning on my own (along with the guidance of my hubs who teaches an Advanced Health & Fitness Professionals program at a vocational school) about different things related to health and fitness, so I just thought I would address some of these things here as I have learned/experienced them.

Cardio vs Weights - I have previously posted on this topice here.  Let me put it this way, when you envision yourself at your goal, what do you see?  Most women say they want to be skinny, but in reality, they are picturing themselves with some muscle tone and some kind of tight ab situation.  Take a look at the picture below. 

If you were to do nothing but cardio, you would be on your way to looking like the girl on the right (granted, she probably hasn't eaten anything in the past 3 years, so...take that with a grain of salt). If you were to do weight training with some cardio mixed in, or more high-intensity interval training, you would be on your way to looking more like the girl on the left.  In order to build/keep muscle, you have to continue using it.  It has been discovered that long stints of moderate cardio actually start to deplete your muscle mass, which leads to the look of the girl on the right.  I don't know about you, but I prefer to look strong and toned, like the girl on the left. 

To date, the best results I ever got were from Jamie Eason's Live Fit Trainer on bodybuilding.com.  That program was a good blend of weight training and cardio.  Never once did I "look like a dude" while doing so much weight lifting.  A lot of women are hesitant to lift weights because they think they will start to look big and bulky like a man.  In actuality, women don't have high enough testosterone levels to get that big, so you have nothing to worry about.  Unfortunately it's hard for me and my schedule to devote that much time in the gym, so I switched to the bodyrock workouts, which I am loving so far.

Calorie Counting - This is typically the first thing women start doing in order to lose weight.  After all, the simple equation for weight loss is calories in < calories out.  The problem with this equation is that there isn't enough emphasis on how to calculate the necessary amount of calories in.  Different tools/apps like My Fitness Pal have made this easier in recent years, but overall people are still doing it wrong.  This has a lot to do with the amount of calories you need to maintain your current resting state plus taking into account how much exercising you are doing.  You need to fuel your body appropriately for the work you are making it do, otherwise your body will do things like go into starvation mode which causes it to retain fat because it doesn't know when it will get nutrients again.


Another problem with calorie counting/point systems is that you aren't really focusing on what type of calories you are putting into your body.  200 calories of sugar are going to leave you feeling sluggish and hungry soon after eating it, whereas 200 calories of protein/complex carbohydrates/good fats will keep you satisfied and feeling fuller longer.

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Fat Doesn't Make You Fat - This is one of the things that frustrates me the most.  People are so focused on low-fat this and non-fat that and pay no attention to the list of ingredients they are taking in.  A rule of thumb that I use is basing my foods on their ingredient list.  If I can't pronounce it, I typically don't eat it.  When you buy fat free foods, unless they are natural foods like fruits and veggies, the processing just takes the place of the fat.  I strongly believe that processed food is responsible for weight gain as opposed to fat intake being the culprit.  If you based your consumption of a food on the amount of fat that was in it, you wouldn't eat avocados, olives, butter, nuts, fish.  Many of those foods are high in fats, but they are good fats (Omega-3).  If you are interested in learning more about good fats vs bad fats, you can look into Omega-3 (good) vs Omega-6 (not as good) fats.  It's mostly about striking a balance between the good vs not as good fats and eating fruits and vegetables.

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You may have heard before to shop the perimeter of the grocery store.  The perimeter of the grocery store is where you find the whole foods; fruits, veggies, meats, dairy.  The deeper in you go to the aisles, the more processed food gets.  Next time you are there, make a conscious effort to notice what is on each aisle.  If you don't walk by the cookies/crackers/ice cream, you aren't tempted to keep it in your house and then you can't eat it because it's no longer conveniently there.

Sleep - In order for your body to recover from the day (especially if you are working out) and repair itself, you need adequate, quality sleep.  I have read many places that 6 hours is the least amount of sleep you should get each night.  Optimal is 7-8 hours.  I usually get about 7 hours, but could probably use 9.  If you are getting good rest and fueling your body with the proper amount of nutrients, it's virtually impossible to get sick.  Your immune system is functioning at an optimal level which allows it to fight off all the bad guys you encounter.


Instant Results/Quick Fixes - There was a time in my life where I was stupid enough to use diet pills. It was back when they had the good stuff in them, too. I would have breakfast, take a pill, have lunch, take a pill, and then by dinner time I was coming down and I was a major bitch. I definitely saw some results, but I definitely didn't like how my body felt. I am not one of those people who could ever have anorexia. If I go more than 3 hours without eating I get shaky, cranky, headaches, and I just plain can't function. I can't imagine going days at a time on a few crackers here and there. Once I stopped taking those pills, I gained all the weight back and then some. Mostly because I wasn't doing any physical activity to keep it off and also because those things throw your metabolism out of whack and often times when it regulates again, it's slower than it was before. Finding out that little factoid scared me away from using them ever again. You definitely have to put in the work to get where you want to be.

Eating 6 well portioned meals a day keeps your metabolism active and your body in a place where it knows it is going to be fed again, so it works at an optimal level. Your energy level will go up and you won't feel the need to snack on bad foods or stuff yourself at the next meal since it has been 4 or 5 hours since you ate last. I can't remember the last time I needed an afternoon caffeine fix. The 3pm slump is nowhere to be found because my body has all the fuel it needs.

I know it's frustrating when you don't see the results you want at first, but if you keep pushing, you finally realize the results and the high you get from being so proud of yourself for doing it is better than any diet pill, I can assure you.  I saw this the other day and thought it was fitting:


and this one is my favorite:


Now GET TO WORK!  :)

 

Tuesday, August 14, 2012

Never Ever...



I could not be more excited to wake up to a new Taylor Swift single this morning!!  Album "Red" due out October 22nd, HOLLA!!!

So what if I am 30 years old and love Taylor Swift and Justin Bieber? Judge away, I'll be over here dancing and singing my heart out! We are talking about the richest, most successful people under 30, at 22 and 18 years old.  Hate it or love it, it is what it is.

I really connected with Tay-Tay (as she is referred to in our house) over "Teardrops on My Guitar". Let's just say I was going through it at that time and I may or may not have cried in my car when it would come on...every.single.time.

I enjoy the fact that she pulls inspiration from her relationships but is classy enough to never name names. Because let's be honest, we have all had relationship woes.  And when you do, those songs that really encompass everything you felt or wanted to say, you immediately love that artist. Why do you think people love Adele so much?  For me, it's Taylor and Kelly Clarkson. 

But alas, haters gon' hate. Whateva, whateva, I do what I want! I will keep buying their singles and albums and singing their songs at the top of my lungs in my car and shower.

Who is/are your guilty pleasure artist(s)?



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